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03 Oct

I’m stepping out! Define your triggers Once we identify bad behavior or habits in our lives, we must start annihilating them one at a time from our daily routine. Its imperative we identify what triggers the bad behavior or habit. A trigger is to an addict, as a land mine is to a soldier. Both individuals must have heightened senses, warning them of the insidious dangers lurking nearby.  

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26 Sep

I’m stepping out! Substitute bad Behavior with positive behavior Offensive behavior or habits are usually initiated in one’s life to provide comfort from a stressful event or entertainment from boredom. Whatever the reason for the offensive behavior or habit, we must rid ourselves of them. Once we determine the reason for the offensive behavior or habit, we can find a positive substitute. If your trying to quit smoking and you tend to smoke when you drink, avoid drinking. You may also try…..

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19 Sep

I’m stepping out! Concentrate and commit Each day when you awaken, concentrate on one offensive behavior you wish to work on. After you have selected a behavior or habit you wish to eliminate, commit to resisting the impulse to participate in the behavior throughout your day. Reward yourself when you have successfully made it through a day without participating in the offensive behavior. You must concentrate on one behavior at a time, giving it your full attention. We are all…..

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12 Sep

I’m Stepping out! Make a List Make a list of the bad behavior or habits you wish to eliminate from your life. A written list brings clarity and focus to your desired goal. This process is also a written omission, a problem exists. Take one behavior or habit and attempt to eliminate it from your daily routine, minute by minute, hour by hour, day by day and so on. If you find yourself repeating the bad behavior or habit, start over…..

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05 Sep

I’m stepping out! Identify bad behavior I’m sure you will agree, we must identify bad behavior or habits, prior to eliminating them from our lives. An honest self-examination of ourself will certainly reveal bad behavior or habits that may have alienated us from our loved ones and may be responsible for stifling our growth as happy, productive individuals.

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29 Aug

I’m Stepping out! Reprogram your mind Part Three In my last blog I spoke of judging every thought that enters your mind. Productive thoughts produce productive behavior; destructive thoughts produce destructive behavior. If the thought is a productive thought, expound on it and start producing. If the thought is a destructive thought, cast it out of your mind immediately. If you find yourself battling with destructive thoughts, remove yourself from the meditative state of mind by grabbing your Walkman, going for…..

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22 Aug

I’m stepping out! Reprogram your mind Part two Reprogramming your mind starts with controlling of your thought life. This process absorbs every waking moment of your life. It requires analyzing every thought, judging it to determine if it is a productive thought or a destructive thought. The destructive thoughts will be cast down immediately, continuously, as they emerge. Eventually, this practice will become a natural tool you use on a daily basis. Offensive behavior may become a habit in one’s…..

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15 Aug

I’m stepping out! Reprogram your mind Part one What we meditate on certainly directs our behavior. I feel the first step in ridding ourselves of habitual, offensive behavior is to learn to control our thought life. Controlling ones thought life is simply that, being accountable for not allowing a destructive, negative, thought, more time in your head than it deserves. I am convinced any destructive thought, capable of leading you into destructive behavior, should be cast down immediately. When You…..

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30 May

Help! I’ve fallen and I can’t get up! “Why are you wounded?” Part three   When we are experiencing stress, or any other painful emotion, we seek comfort or relief from the experience. We usually look for an activity that may lessen the impact of the stressful event. The relief is only temporary, resulting in re-engaging in the activity to help us cope with our daily stressful activities. We must be careful not to allow this innocent activity required to…..

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26 Dec

A Lewis Christmas I Had the good fortune of spending the Christmas holidays with the lewis Clan. December 23rd. My Holiday opened up with a Birthday bash for the lewis matriarch, Edna Carter lewis. Honey, as we so affectionately refer to her, celebrated her 89th birthday at our favorite Italian restaurant, Sal’s. December 24th We  attended The traditional Christmas Eve party at the Sehmi home. The festivities of the evening consisted of Sammy serving his wonderful curry, Casey and Jerri Marie…..

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