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01 Feb

  Priceless gifts Time with a friend   I have many precious memories of my childhood. Some with my beloved family and childhood friends.     In 2014  I  was contacted by a family member that my childhood friend Nikki had been diagnosed with cancer. I called Nikki and we decided to schedule a much-needed visit. During the course of our conversation, I discovered Nikki’s mother, Janice had been diagnosed with cancer as well. I was deeply saddened by the revelation that…..

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01 Jan

Empowering Children Empowering a young person is the act of placing tools in a child’s hands, enabling him to soar above the adversity and confusion swirling around him in our current society. Empowerment gives a young person the confidence and self-assurance needed for survival. When a person is sure of who they are, they are not likely to be thrown to and fro by the influence of others. Most individuals are influenced by others when: 1. They do not have…..

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22 Nov

A wounded culture   http://www.google.com/url?sa=t&rct=j&q=&esrc=s&source=web&cd=1&cad=rja&uact=8&ved=0ahUKEwjArZn2-7nQAhXj5IMKHZwpD3wQqQIIHjAA&url=http%3A%2F%2Fwww.foxnews.com%2Fus%2F2016%2F11%2F19%2Ffather-fallen-soldier-says-plane-passengers-booed-family.html&usg=AFQjCNHyGFwGH6xFEr-imcy8KL11RHsUTQ     Wounded individuals maintain a fighting stance with clinched fists before them, always prepared for an anticipated attack. We are a wounded culture residing in a wounded society, ready to fight when we feel our rights have been violated. I am greatly saddened by the disrespectful response of the passengers in the first class section aboard the American Airlines aircraft, concerning one of our fallen soldiers. I do not believe the passengers in the…..

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31 Oct

I’m stepping out! A new creation! We discussed in past post how an individual may participate in destructive behavior to lessen the pain of a traumatic life changing event in one’s life. I refer to this life changing event as an assault. This behavior may become habitual and may be responsible for the individual disengaging from a healthy lifestyle. The behavior may become so offensive to an individuals loved ones, they eventually alienate the individual from their lives. This offensive…..

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24 Oct

I’m stepping out! Join a support group My dear mother use to say, “Tell me who your friends are, and I will tell you who you are.” While I accept the fact that I am not a mirror image of my friends, I feel we share a common belief system. Point being, like attracts like. If you are accustomed to exhibiting bad behavior on a regular basis, you will attract, and gravitate towards the bottom feeders. If you wish to change…..

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10 Oct

I’m stepping out! Talk to someone I think we all need to unload the burden of our secretive, shameful behavior. I also feel the recipient of this information should be qualified and trustworthy. The minute we speak to a trustworthy, nonjudgmental, individual concerning our shameful behavior, we are released from shames bondage. When we share our shameful past, we must work towards healing and move on. We must leave this shameful memory in the past. According to Dr. Brene Brown shame…..

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03 Oct

I’m stepping out! Define your triggers Once we identify bad behavior or habits in our lives, we must start annihilating them one at a time from our daily routine. Its imperative we identify what triggers the bad behavior or habit.   A trigger is to an addict, as a land mine is to a soldier. Both individuals must have heightened senses, warning them of the insidious dangers lurking nearby.

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26 Sep

I’m stepping out! Substitute bad Behavior with positive behavior Offensive behavior or habits are usually initiated in one’s life to provide comfort from a stressful event or entertainment from boredom. Whatever the reason for the offensive behavior or habit, we must rid ourselves of them. Once we determine the reason for the offensive behavior or habit, we can find a positive substitute. If your trying to quit smoking and you tend to smoke when you drink, avoid drinking. You may also try…..

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19 Sep

I’m stepping out! Concentrate and commit Each day when you awaken, concentrate on one offensive behavior you wish to work on. After you have selected a behavior or habit you wish to eliminate, commit to resisting the impulse to participate in the behavior throughout your day. Reward yourself when you have successfully made it through a day without participating in the offensive behavior. You must concentrate on one behavior at a time, giving it your full attention. We are all…..

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12 Sep

I’m Stepping out! Make a List Make a list of the bad behavior or habits you wish to eliminate from your life. A written list brings clarity and focus to your desired goal. This process is also a written omission, a problem exists. Take one behavior or habit and attempt to eliminate it from your daily routine, minute by minute, hour by hour, day by day and so on. If you find yourself repeating the bad behavior or habit, start over…..

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